Beyond the Stereotype: Depression

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These last few years I have felt like a complete idiot. My grades were slipping and I both cared too much and not at all. I was too tired to concentrate on anything, and even if I could pay attention it’s not like I absorbed anything. One-hour lectures fell right out of my head as soon as I walked out the door. I thought maybe I just wasn’t as smart as I believed I was, and I gave up on myself.

When most people hear the word depression, the first thing they think is “sad”. They think that a depressed person just needs to smile more, be less lonely, or just snap out of it. The thing is, depression has so many more layers that it appears. Here is the truth about what depression really is, and how it can affect you and your loved ones.

It’s Not Every Day

Most people seem to think that in order to be considered depressed you have to be sad 24/7. That is not the case at all. According to Managing Your Depression: What You Can Do To Feel Better, Susan J. Noonan describes depression as a “relapsing and remitting” illness. This means that symptoms of depression often come and go. A single depressive episode can last from a minimum of two weeks up to several months. In between episodes, a person can feel and appear normal, and others would have no idea they were even depressed.

It’s More Than “I’m Sad”

Some people have off days. Something happens and they’re disappointed. Sometimes they just have to cry. But it passes and they’re back to their old selves again. This is not the case with depression. It’s not sad moments, it’s weeks. There’s a hollowness inside, and apathy for oneself. It’s fatigue, crying spells, and sometimes, just nothing at all. 

You Don’t Have To Be Traumatized to Be Depressed

Better mornings, delivered fresh! Bean Box works with 25 small-batch roasters to ship the best, freshest coffee to your doorstep.A lot of the time depression is triggered by some type of traumatic event, such as the loss of a loved one. But there are millions of people out there who just can’t figure out why. We have good homes and loving families. We have friends and good jobs. It’s hard to explain that you don’t want to live or be around anybody, and that being in your bedroom with the lights off is how you’d rather spend the last of your days. It feels ridiculous having no reason to feel so miserable, but it’s true.

Depressed People Are Not Lazy People

Depression has a way of making you feel unintelligent and lazy. Between the fatigue and the brain fog, productivity ceases to exist. You’re aware that everything is falling apart, but you just can’t bring yourself to care enough to get up and fix it. You lay there and sleep. It’s better than worrying. People will get more and more upset with you, and you will become more depressed, give up, and sleep more. It’s a vicious cycle.

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We Can’t Just Stop

“Just smile! Do something you like! Just be happy!” Oh wow thanks how revolutionary I’m cured. No seriously, depression isn’t something that can be turned on and off. No one likes to be tired, confused, and tearful all the time. No one wants to shut themselves down and feel bad about themselves. It’s just how we are.

What we need from others is patience and understanding. Depression isn’t something that will just go away. We will learn to cope with it so that it does not stop our lives. It’s a daily battle that many do not see, but we are stronger than it. That is why you would never know that it’s so hard.


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